Claude Steiner continues, "Through this training," he says 'training', because Emotional Literacy must be learned, "you will become an emotional gourmand - aware of the texture, flavor and aftertaste of your emotions."
Each emotion is different. It has a different use. It has a different source. It has a different feeling. It's accompanied by different kinds of thoughts. Different emotions produce different kinds of behaviors. And Claude Steiner is making us aware that we can differentiate the texture and flavor of our emotions.
And he makes another very interesting statement about the aftertaste of our emotions. That our emotions leave an impression upon our mind, in our memory, after they've occurred. By tapping into our memory, we can discover the aftertaste of an emotion.
We can also learn if we used that emotion appropriately, functionally. When I say functionally, a functional emotion, did the use of that emotion help us to get what we needed, or did the use of that emotion turn out to hinder us from getting what we needed?
Claude Steiner continues, "You will learn how to let your rational skills work hand-in-hand with your emotional skills."
Our rational skills, in many ways, work independently from our emotional skills. And by doing so, creates an imbalance, because where emotion does not match our intellect, we have created within ourselves discord.
As Claude Steiner says, "You will learn how to let your rational skills work hand-in-hand with your emotional skills."
We use our rational skills to make decisions. If we are unaware of our emotional associations with our decisions, we can often find them in conflict, working against each other, defeating each other. But through Emotional Literacy, we can learn how our decisions affect our emotions, and how our emotions affect our decisions, and how, when they work together, work for our benefit.
Emotional Literacy is not limited to the training or education in emotions. Emotional Literacy is a holistic educational process - in which we learn about the human self as a whole.
With Emotional Literacy we learn about our needs, our emotions, our intellect and our relationships. And what we learn are skills. What we grow are capacities. And what we achieve is our highest possibilities.
Claude Steiner continues, "Adding to your ability to relate to other people."
Human beings, functioning to survive, have developed social instincts. And a large part of our mental capacities are devoted to relating to other people. Knowing how to relate intellectually, knowing how to relate emotionally, knowing how to relate to others in our behavior - is the very foundation of our emotional condition. When we relate to others poorly, our social condition will be poor.
Claude Steiner continues, "Hence, you will become better at everything you do with others: parenting, partnering, working, playing, teaching and loving."
These are all social skills: parenting, partnering, working, playing, teaching. Emotional Literacy is the process by which we enhance our social abilities, our social skills, and our capacities to interact with others.
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